St. Raphael Counseling Prepares Teachers to Deal with Tough Subjects

As summer break 2024 ended, teachers at Holy Family High School in Broomfield prepared classrooms, revised lesson plans and reviewed student rosters. They reconnected with colleagues, met new teachers and agreed that summer had flown by.

They also gathered for continuing education and team building.

Representatives from St. Raphael Counseling, the largest Catholic therapy organization in the country and a ministry of Catholic Charities in the Archdiocese of Denver, led a session focused on mental health. From cultivating emotionally healthy students and building resilience to coping techniques and anxiety management for teachers, the daylong session aimed to ensure that both students – and their teachers – were prepared to make the upcoming school year their best yet. A central topic on their minds: suicide prevention.

Leading the session were St. Raphael Counseling’s Dr. Angela Wall, Meg Beckman and Jeff Rasp, seasoned therapists with years of experience in mental health and suicide prevention.

Holy Family High School is just one of 21 schools across the Archdiocese of Denver that works directly with St. Raphael Counseling to provide Catholic-based behavioral health services from this Catholic Charities ministry. Launched in 2011, this program serves students in individual and group counseling sessions, exploring emotions, overcoming challenges and developing essential life skills. Last year alone, 10,000 counseling hours were committed to the wellbeing of students at Catholic schools. This session at Holy Family was focused on how teachers are an integral piece of the mental health puzzle.

“Talking about suicide isn’t easy,” Dr. Wall began, her voice calm but resolute. “Some of us here may be loss survivors or attempt survivors. It’s important to acknowledge that this is a difficult topic, but it’s also an essential one.”

The team started by addressing common myths. “There’s a pervasive myth that no one can stop a suicide, that it’s inevitable once someone decides. But the reality is quite different. If people in crisis get the help they need, they may never be suicidal again. In fact, nine out of 10 people who attempt suicide never go on to die by it,” said Rasp.

Rasp then tackled another misconception: that asking someone directly about suicide would only make them angry and increase the risk. “The fact is…asking someone directly about their intent actually lowers their anxiety. It can be the very thing that opens the door to getting them the help they need.”

The St. Raphael Counseling team shared sobering statistics from 2022, highlighting the alarming increase in suicide rates over the past 20 years. “Almost 50,000 lives lost to suicide last year alone. That’s 138.97 lives every day—nearly the equivalent of a commercial jet crash every other day.”

Rasp detailed the specific vulnerabilities faced by different groups, such as Native American and Alaska Native youths, whose suicide rate is almost twice the national average. He also pointed out that people in rural areas are twice as likely to die by suicide compared to those in large metro areas.

The faculty members were visibly moved, some taking notes, others nodding in agreement as they processed the information. The St. Raphael team stressed the importance of being vigilant and recognizing the signs—verbal, behavioral and situational—that could indicate a student was in crisis.

“When someone says, ‘I’m tired of life,’ or ‘My family would be better off without me,’ they are not just words. These are cries for help, and they’re looking for reassurance that their lives have meaning, that people care.”

The team introduced the QPR program—Question, Persuade, Refer—as a practical approach teachers could use to help students in distress. “If you’re ever in doubt, don’t wait. Ask the question. You can’t do harm by asking, but you might save a life.”

The teachers learned the importance of being persistent and patient, listening without judgment and offering hope in any form. “Remember, when you apply QPR, you plant the seeds of hope. And hope helps prevent suicide.”

As the session continued, the focus shifted to the broader challenges faced by students today—extreme isolation, fear about the state of the world and identity crises exacerbated by the pressures of performance, appearance and approval from others. “Students become overwhelmed when they start to believe that their worth is in these external things. But their true identity is non-negotiable and foundational—they are loved by God, made in His image and chosen by Him.”

The St. Raphael team encouraged teachers to help students cultivate resilience, self-compassion and a steadfast faith. “Teach your students that their academics are only one aspect of their life. Model positive self-talk, foster a growth mindset and create a classroom culture of grace.”

The session included practical exercises, including breathing techniques to calm anxiety and a reminder of the power of prayer. “When we’re not guiding them, they cling to things like tarot cards and other practices that don’t provide the real help they need. We need to incorporate our faith into these strategies—like using the Rosary as a tool for peace.”

As the teachers left the auditorium, there was a shared sense of determination. They were not just educators but lifelines, armed with the knowledge and tools to be a wedge between their students and the despair that could lead to suicide. The visit from St. Raphael Counseling had not only informed them but empowered them, reminding them of the profound impact they could have on the lives of the students they were called to serve.

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Catholic Charities Kinship program is where families like Audrey’s find community and support

FINDING SOLACE AND STRENGTH AFTER UNIMAGINABLE LOSS

In Her Own Words: Audrey shares what the Catholic Charities Kinship program means to her family.
“My daughter, Arianne passed away unexpectedly on June 23, 2019, at the age of thirty-six, leaving behind three young children aged 4, 5 and 12 at the time.

In the wake of this devastating loss, my family embarked on a journey we never anticipated nor desired. We find ourselves yearning daily for Arianne’s presence to fill the void. In the midst of grief, we relied on Catholic Charities who offered us opportunities to connect with others in similar circumstances. Surrounded by fellow Catholic families grappling with similar grief, I’ve found solace and strength. Cooper, Joey and Cody are resilient, and I am grateful that we have resources now for them to deal with grief.

While we held a Mass and service at the time of Arianne’s passing, we have yet to lay her to rest. Plans for a Catholic Service at Mt. Olivet Cemetery this summer offer hope that our younger children will come to understand the concepts of death and heaven.

My days are devoted to caring for the children, leaving little room for work outside the home. However, through programs like the Kinship program offered by Catholic Charities, we find a sense of community and support. Monthly gatherings at Notre Dame Church provide a space for us to connect with families facing similar challenges, while the children benefit from religious education classes and community events.

A particularly poignant moment was a court ceremony (where full custody was granted to Audrey) conducted on October 23, 2023, in the same room where we held our Kinship family meetings. This event served as a significant step in our healing journey, made more comforting by the children’s familiar surroundings.

We eagerly participate in activities organized by Kinship, providing moments of joy and connection for the children. Despite financial constraints, these events offer invaluable experiences, like Cooper’s fond memory of meeting a Kinship team member at a ropes course event.

Looking ahead, Joey, the youngest child, plans to perform a skit from Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory at an upcoming luncheon and talent show, a testament to his growth and resilience. We’re immensely grateful for the legal support we’ve received, including assistance with Special Needs Trust Funds and adoption fees, ensuring the children’s long-term well-being.

Throughout our journey, food has been a constant source of comfort and support, provided generously by our community. Volunteer teachers offer invaluable support for the children, allowing us adults to address our own needs during meetings.

As we reflect on the past year, the support we received during Christmas was particularly impactful. Gift cards and presents brought joy to the children, with our two youngest, Cooper and Joey, receiving brand new bicycles.

I’m inspired to advocate for grieving programs tailored to special needs children, drawing from our Catholic faith and the example of Mary’s sorrow. I use the Pieta image to explain the Blessed Virgin Mary’s sixth Sorrow – with the loss of Jesus. I have the goal to work with our Catholic faith and develop a grief program based on Mary’s experience. Our family remains profoundly grateful for the unwavering support we’ve received since day one.”

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In the news: Coat drive pushed up to serve hundreds of migrants coming to our doors

When floods ravaged Northern Colorado back in 2013, Catholic Charities and the entire Colorado community stepped up to help. When COVID displaced families and individuals who had nowhere else to turn, the community rallied behind Catholic Charities and our partner organizations to make more shelter available to those who needed it most. And, when the Marshall Fire swept through Boulder County in late 2021, the entire community came out to support those who found themselves without a place to call home.

In a crisis, we are called to help our brothers and sisters. When neighbors need help, we all step up and lean into the commandment to love your neighbor. Over the past few weeks and months, thousands of migrants have arrived in Colorado with nothing but clothes on their backs. With colder days and nights in the forecast, thousands of families with children are facing the harsh Colorado winter without appropriate clothing.

When Catholic Charities called our friends at FOX31/KWGN and Dependable Cleaners, asking about the availability of coats through their annual Coats for Colorado coat drive, the team responded immediately. Even though the collection of Coats just started only 10 days before, Dependable Cleaners was able to deliver hundreds of coats to meet the need now, nearly two months ahead of normal distribution.

“When Catholic Charities reached out we knew immediately that we wanted to help and help quickly. With our partners at Dependable Cleaners we mobilized and were able to deliver coats now, weeks ahead of schedule. This clearly reflects how big the need will be this year,” said Byron Grandy, Vice President and General Manager of FOX31. “We were honored to work with our partners, Dependable Cleaners and Catholic Charities to make sure those in need have a warm coat this winter.”

Since the beginning of October, the warehouse at Samaritan House has had a line wrapped around the building with families and individuals seeking resources, assistance and materials they need to weather the incoming colder weather. Thanks to the hardworking staff and volunteers at Catholic Charities and Coats for Colorado, sack lunches, a set of clothing and a winter coat are handed out to the people waiting in line.

“This donation of coats makes a huge difference, and it comes at such a perfect time,” said Mark Hahn, director of parish and community engagement at Catholic Charities. “We have such a need. It’s really a crisis situation right now with so many people coming into Colorado. They are coming to us with absolutely nothing,”

When Hahn unloaded the coats he picked up from Coats for Colorado, there was a group of people waiting in line for help. “We will see probably 15 to 20 people consistently at our door who need our help,” he said. “It took a phone call and some quick action to bring the love of Jesus Christ to clothe and feed our neighbors who may not know where to find their next meal or warm coat. It’s a small gift of true dignity.”

YOU CAN HELP! Donations are accepted seven days a week at Samaritan House 2301 Lawrence St. in Denver, between 9 a.m. — 4 p.m. Monday through Friday, and from 9 a.m. — 1 p.m. on Saturday and Sunday. A list of most needed items can be found here. Thanks in advance for your generosity.

School Supply Drive brings confidence to the classroom for hundreds of students

Every year, as a new school year approaches, Catholic Charities partners with parishes throughout the Archdiocese of Denver to organize a School Supply Drive, providing essential educational materials to hundreds of students.

According to the National Retail Federation, families with school-aged children averaged more than $840 on school supplies in 2023. For many families served by Catholic Charities, the growing price of supplies due to inflation, is insurmountable. The cost could potentially impede their grocery or housing budget for the month, leaving children with few to no supplies to start the school year.

“For families at Samaritan House and other ministries throughout Catholic Charities, we want to be sure that school is not another cause for anxiety or stress. We are thankful to the many amazing donors that contribute to share this vision with us and make it a reality,” said Mark Hahn, Director of Volunteer and Community Engagement at Catholic Charities.

Since the School Supply Drive began, it has connected generous donors with thousands of students, to help enrich education and build up that extra confidence as students enter their classrooms for the first time. Brand new backpacks and supplies do that by giving children one less thing to worry about when they are learning and growing.

Families such as Aaron Areolla and his granddaughters, who are part of our Kinship program, have participated in the Catholic Charities School Supply Drive since the girls were in elementary school. Back then, their school supply lists included crayons and colored pencils.

Today, the girls are in high school, and their school supply lists are a lot different. But they still look forward to coming to Christ the King parish in Denver to pick out new backpacks, folders and notebooks for the upcoming school year. As for their grandfather, he says it has been a saving grace that they can depend on year after year.

Thanks to the generosity of incredible donors, families like the Areolla’s are able to start the school year on an equal footing. The assistance provided through the Catholic Charities School Supply Drive undoubtedly impacts the lives of these children, fostering confidence and enthusiasm as a new school year begins.

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